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| As
a
parent,
you
are
responsible
for
your
children's
physical
safety
and
emotional
well-being.
There
is
no
one
right
way
to
raise
a
child.
Parenting
styles
vary,
but
all
caregivers
should
agree
on
expectations
for
your
child. Many good books are available in libraries or at bookstores on developmental stages, constructive problem-solving, discipline styles, and other parenting skills. The following suggestions are not meant to be complete. Do your best to provide a safe home and community for your child, as well as nutritious meals, regular health check-ups, immunizations, and exercise. Be aware of stages in child development so you don't expect too much or too little from your child. Encourage your child to express his or her feelings; respect those feelings. Let your child know that everyone experiences pain, fear, anger, and anxiety. Try to learn the source of these feelings. Help your child express anger positively, without resorting to violence. Promote mutual respect and trust. Keep your voice level down--even when you don't agree. Keep communication channels open. Listen to your child. Use words and examples your child can understand. Encourage questions. Provide comfort and assurance. Be honest. Focus on the positives. Express your willingness to talk about any subject. Set a good example. Look at your own problem-solving and coping skills. Seek help if you are overwhelmed by your child's feelings or behaviors or if you are unable to control your own frustration or anger. Encourage your child's talents and accept limitations. Set goals based on the child's abilities and interests--not someone else's expectations. Don't compare your child's abilities to those of other children. Celebrate accomplishments. Appreciate the uniqueness of your child. Spend time regularly with your child. Foster your child's independence and self-worth. Help your child deal with life's ups and downs. Show confidence in your child's ability to handle problems and tackle new experiences. Discipline constructively, fairly, and consistently. (Discipline is a form of teaching, not physical punishment.) All children and families are different; learn what is effective for your child. Show approval for positive behaviors. Help your child learn from his or her mistakes. Love unconditionally. Teach the value of apologies, cooperation, patience, forgiveness, and consideration for others. Do not expect to be perfect; parenting is a difficult job. If you think there may be a problem concerning your child, it's probably a good idea to talk with a caring, compassionate professional from Southwest Mental Health Center. Call us at 210-616-0300. |
